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How to Be Single After Being a Couple

How to be single after being a couple

You might not have thought you’d find yourself going from me to we and back to me. The good news is you can survive and even thrive after divorce. There are many things you can do to transition through this stage of life and actually enjoy it!

Place your mental health and the mental health of your children into the number one spot. Make sure everyone has some professional counseling and that both parents agree to respect each other for the sake of the children. Working hard toward these goals can help ensure a thriving future. Here are a few ways you can transition to being single after being a couple. Continue reading →

Let’s Talk about Shame

How to deal with Shame after divorce

It’s time for that class reunion, and you are freshly divorced. Part of you wants to show up to see old friends and catch up. Part of you feels you can only go if you fake your way through. And another part wants to avoid that reunion like the plague.

It’s confusing because in some quiet moments you are feeling braver, more hopeful, and more sure of yourself than you have in years. On the other hand, public appearances that entail the telling of your divorce story can fill you with dread and send you into orbit. Why?

Well…let’s talk about shame. It’s that insidious experience that can be as obscure and sneaky as a termite eating away at the foundation of your soul, or as blatantly crushing as a 6-ton elephant. It’s an intense feeling that coerces you to disappear or inflate when all you really want to do is show up and simply be you. Continue reading →

Post Divorce – How to Do Things Alone

How to do things alone post-divorce

So the divorce is finalized, you had a post-divorce party and everyone has left. You are single again –what now?

While at first being alone after divorce can be scary, isolating and lonely, it does get easier. Once you learn how to be comfortable being alone after divorce, you may find that you feel empowered, independent, peaceful, self-confident and self-loved.

Here are some things you can do with your new time to yourself. Continue reading →

Dealing with the Stigma of Divorce

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Despite the fact that up-to-half of all marriages end in divorce, it still seems to be spoken of in hushed voices with a raised brow and judgmental tone. I, too, once spoke of it in that way – before I knew better. I always thought divorce was for people who didn’t take their marriages seriously. After all, if you were truly committed, you could make it work, right?

When I learned that my preconceived notions of divorce were wrong, I found myself on the receiving end of hushed voices and raised eyebrows. I felt labeled and judged for a long time. Then, I realized the problem others had with my situation was because of their own preconceived notions and misunderstandings. I had to learn to respond to questions from them and myself in a healthy way. Continue reading →

Three Ways to Keep Your Past Out of Your Future

Creating New Relationships

Let’s be honest, divorce changes you in ways you may not even realize until much later in life. It can affect your expectations, warp your perspective and change you for the worse if you let it. If you don’t want your future to look like your past, get proactive about working through those thoughts and feelings leftover from your damaged relationship. Continue reading →