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How to Be Vented To

One woman screams at another through a tin can telephone

When your friend wants to vent after an exasperating divorce-related experience, it’s not only understandable, but necessary.  A traditional African proverb says, “When elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers.” When you provide a safe, objective space to vent, you help your friend protect his or her “grass” – whether that’s the children, mutual friends, extended family, or his or her own emotional and physical well-being.

Because it’s likely your friend will not be at his or her best when venting, here are some ideas to help you be a more skillful, compassionate listener. Continue reading →