All posts tagged help a friend in divorce

How to Approach a Spouse about Divorce

How to Approach a Spouse about Divorce

No one has ever told me at the end of the divorce process they wish it had lasted longer.

Unfortunately, there are many things couples can do to ensure, upfront, that the divorce is handled rationally and with little disruption to everyone’s well being. Because it is tough for the people involved to stay calm sometimes, your role as a friend is critical. While in some conversations you should just let your divorcing friend vent, there will be other times when you can have a calm discussion about how to move forward. When your friend has decided to divorce and is ready to discuss that decision with his or her spouse and children, you can help by suggesting some practical thoughts about how to stay diplomatic. Continue reading →

How to Help Your Divorced Friend Carve Out Some “Me Time”

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After going through a traumatic life experience like divorce, it can be hard to find yourself again.  The importance of carving out “me time” is not only therapeutic and healing, but it can be fun as well.

For more on why “me time” is important physically and emotionally, check out A Woman’s Guide To Me Time.

It’s difficult enough to find “me time” between work and parental duties when you have a spouse helping you.  Now, picture your divorced friend and imagine that it’s even harder when you don’t have that extra adult helping you.  The schedule of a divorced parent is definitely different and often times results in more work for the single parent.  Most likely your friend is trying to spend more time with the kids on the days they are together, but then the off-days off get crowded with errands and other work.  It can seem like an eternal catch-22.

Finding “me time” isn’t impossible. Here are some tips to help a friend in need. Continue reading →

Six Tips to Help Your Divorced Friend (and Kids) Stay In The Social Circle

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At 24 I was a single mom of a special needs child. I don’t think most of my friends knew how to handle that – not that I did either.  They seemed to move on, leaving me to hear about their gatherings and outings through the grapevine. Looking back, I can understand what may have been difficult for them. Still — divorce is an isolating event in itself, without the addition of being cut off from your social life. Here’s how to make sure your friend knows you’re still there – and that you still want to spend time together. Continue reading →

3 Tips to Help Your Divorcing Friend Take a
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“As you walk down the fairway of life you must smell the roses, for you only get to play one round.”
Ben Hogan

Summer is the season to take a break from our normal routines. We dine al fresco, participate in outdoor activities and go on vacation. This is the time of year when focusing on relaxing takes priority over focusing on our responsibilities. The time spent away from the daily grind allows for a renewed perspective on life.

Your “friend in need” may feel like she is in a rut and unable to plan a getaway. She may be trying to make up for lost time on work projects, fearful about spending money on a vacation or uncomfortable about a new definition of a family vacation. Suggesting that she take some time off will allow her to accomplish her responsibilities with more ease. You can help your friend by sharing these three simple tips to get her off the ground, even if she is only spending a day at the beach. Continue reading →

How to Help Your Divorcing Friend Re-Enter the Workforce

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Being a stay at home mom is a dream come true for many women. Unfortunately this dream is often shattered after divorce.  After divorce a once stay-at-home mom may have no choice but to join the outside workforce in order to survive financially. The same is true for women who once worked for pleasure but whose husbands were the primary bread winners.

When my husband and I first split, I worked two jobs in order to survive financially. I worked a regular 9-to-5 job all week and then head into a second job on the days he had our kids. Plus, I was taking work home. This was how I got by. As stressful as working a busy schedule is, it’s usually the only choice a newly single mother has, especially if she once got by solely on her ex-husband’s income.

If your friend is a former stay-at-home mom returning to the workforce or a single mom forced to pick up a second job in order to survive, here are two things you can do to help out. Continue reading →