After going through a traumatic life experience like divorce, it can be hard to find yourself again. The importance of carving out “me time” is not only therapeutic and healing, but it can be fun as well.
For more on why “me time” is important physically and emotionally, check out A Woman’s Guide To Me Time.
It’s difficult enough to find “me time” between work and parental duties when you have a spouse helping you. Now, picture your divorced friend and imagine that it’s even harder when you don’t have that extra adult helping you. The schedule of a divorced parent is definitely different and often times results in more work for the single parent. Most likely your friend is trying to spend more time with the kids on the days they are together, but then the off-days off get crowded with errands and other work. It can seem like an eternal catch-22.
Finding “me time” isn’t impossible. Here are some tips to help a friend in need. Continue reading →
“As you walk down the fairway of life you must smell the roses, for you only get to play one round.”
Summer is the season to take a break from our normal routines. We dine al fresco, participate in outdoor activities and go on vacation. This is the time of year when focusing on relaxing takes priority over focusing on our responsibilities. The time spent away from the daily grind allows for a renewed perspective on life.
Your “friend in need” may feel like she is in a rut and unable to plan a getaway. She may be trying to make up for lost time on work projects, fearful about spending money on a vacation or uncomfortable about a new definition of a family vacation. Suggesting that she take some time off will allow her to accomplish her responsibilities with more ease. You can help your friend by sharing these three simple tips to get her off the ground, even if she is only spending a day at the beach. Continue reading →
Being a stay at home mom is a dream come true for many women. Unfortunately this dream is often shattered after divorce. After divorce a once stay-at-home mom may have no choice but to join the outside workforce in order to survive financially. The same is true for women who once worked for pleasure but whose husbands were the primary bread winners.
When my husband and I first split, I worked two jobs in order to survive financially. I worked a regular 9-to-5 job all week and then head into a second job on the days he had our kids. Plus, I was taking work home. This was how I got by. As stressful as working a busy schedule is, it’s usually the only choice a newly single mother has, especially if she once got by solely on her ex-husband’s income.
If your friend is a former stay-at-home mom returning to the workforce or a single mom forced to pick up a second job in order to survive, here are two things you can do to help out. Continue reading →
At some point, your friend or loved one may be ready to pursue a new relationship. Here are some hiking tips to help you guide them on the new journey.
Lighten your Load: The hike through a disintegrating marriage and a divorce has taken your friend through some treacherous territory. The landscape of a new relationship may feel like a refreshing change. However, one cannot be fully present with someone new until unloading the past relationship. Significant indicators of extra baggage with the former spouse are: Continue reading →