How you handle debt during your marriage can make a big impact on your credit. Your personal credit score also will be affected by how you handle debt during your divorce and after. Here are three questions to ask to help you determine what to do in your situation. Continue reading →
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Divorce is no laughing matter. It can take time – and a toll on your psyche, even triggering depression for some. One way to find balance is to consider what Mark Twain once said: “The human race has one really effective weapon and that is laughter.” Interestingly enough, Twain is backed by science: Continue reading →
When I got divorced, I was employed with a very professional, buttoned-up type of company. When I got up the nerve to tell my boss I was getting a divorce, I received, quite possibly, the worst response; “Well, you’re a good person, so things will be okay. Try not to let it affect your work.” While her initial response seemed straight out of the “How NOT to be Supportive Handbook,” I was (eventually) thankful I shared what I was going through. Continue reading →
No one has ever told me at the end of the divorce process they wish it had lasted longer.
Unfortunately, there are many things couples can do to ensure, upfront, that the divorce is handled rationally and with little disruption to everyone’s well being. Because it is tough for the people involved to stay calm sometimes, your role as a friend is critical. While in some conversations you should just let your divorcing friend vent, there will be other times when you can have a calm discussion about how to move forward. When your friend has decided to divorce and is ready to discuss that decision with his or her spouse and children, you can help by suggesting some practical thoughts about how to stay diplomatic. Continue reading →
When your friend wants to vent after an exasperating divorce-related experience, it’s not only understandable, but necessary. A traditional African proverb says, “When elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers.” When you provide a safe, objective space to vent, you help your friend protect his or her “grass” – whether that’s the children, mutual friends, extended family, or his or her own emotional and physical well-being.
Because it’s likely your friend will not be at his or her best when venting, here are some ideas to help you be a more skillful, compassionate listener. Continue reading →