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How to Practice Gratitude During Divorce

How to Practice Gratitude During Divorce

“Some people grumble that roses have thorns; I am grateful that thorns have roses.”
― Alphonse Karr, A Tour Round My Garden

Robert Emmons, Ph.D., a leading scientific expert on gratitude, exerts that during times of crisis gratefulness is not only helpful, but essential. He states that, “It is precisely under crisis conditions when we have the most to gain by a grateful perspective on life. In the face of demoralization, gratitude has the power to energize. In the face of brokenness, gratitude has the power to heal. In the face of despair, gratitude has the power to bring hope. In other words, gratitude can help us cope with hard times.” Here are three reflections about gratitude: Continue reading →

Divorce from a Child’s Perspective and How Parents Can Help

Divorce from a Child’s Perspective and How Parents Can Help

Even in the most “kindly” of divorces, children have no say in what’s going on and are greatly affected. Some children become disruptive at school, argumentative at home and some even go into a recluse. Many children feel angry, resentful and afraid. Even if they know they are loved by both parents, it usually takes many years for children to understand the situation. They may spend part of their childhood and adolescence resenting the divorce and both parents. Continue reading →

3 Ways to Deal with the Guilt of Divorce

3 Ways to Deal with the Guilt of Divorce

No one goes into marriage thinking it will end in divorce. You get married and you picture a happily ever after. You know you and your spouse will have problems but you know you’ll overcome them together – until the time comes when those problems amount to more than you can bear. Continue reading →

Three Ways to Practice Self-Compassion During Divorce

Three Ways to Practice Self-Compassion During Divorce

“Self-nurturing is far more than pampering…it is about returning home to your heart.” Jennifer Louden

Moving through the divorce process undoubtedly leaves you feeling displaced and beat up. And maybe your greatest critic is yourself. Research increasingly shows that practicing self-compassion can help you be more resilient and generate more positive outcomes in the face of divorce. Kristin Neff, a leading voice in the study of self-compassion, identifies three elements of self-compassion:

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Three Questions to Identify Your Risky Behaviors

Three Questions to Identify Your Risky Behaviors

After my divorce, I found it hard to see what my future life would look like so I tried to focus on taking it one day at a time. While that approach is a normal, healthy way to cope, it became a problem when I stopped looking ahead at all – including looking at the possible consequences of my actions. Here are a few questions to ask if you think living “one day at a time” is putting your tomorrows at risk. Continue reading →