All posts tagged divorce advice

Post Divorce – How to Do Things Alone

How to do things alone post-divorce

So the divorce is finalized, you had a post-divorce party and everyone has left. You are single again –what now?

While at first being alone after divorce can be scary, isolating and lonely, it does get easier. Once you learn how to be comfortable being alone after divorce, you may find that you feel empowered, independent, peaceful, self-confident and self-loved.

Here are some things you can do with your new time to yourself. Continue reading →

Dealing with the Stigma of Divorce

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Despite the fact that up-to-half of all marriages end in divorce, it still seems to be spoken of in hushed voices with a raised brow and judgmental tone. I, too, once spoke of it in that way – before I knew better. I always thought divorce was for people who didn’t take their marriages seriously. After all, if you were truly committed, you could make it work, right?

When I learned that my preconceived notions of divorce were wrong, I found myself on the receiving end of hushed voices and raised eyebrows. I felt labeled and judged for a long time. Then, I realized the problem others had with my situation was because of their own preconceived notions and misunderstandings. I had to learn to respond to questions from them and myself in a healthy way. Continue reading →

How to Approach a Spouse about Divorce

How to Approach a Spouse about Divorce

No one has ever told me at the end of the divorce process they wish it had lasted longer.

Unfortunately, there are many things couples can do to ensure, upfront, that the divorce is handled rationally and with little disruption to everyone’s well being. Because it is tough for the people involved to stay calm sometimes, your role as a friend is critical. While in some conversations you should just let your divorcing friend vent, there will be other times when you can have a calm discussion about how to move forward. When your friend has decided to divorce and is ready to discuss that decision with his or her spouse and children, you can help by suggesting some practical thoughts about how to stay diplomatic. Continue reading →

4 Benefits of Getting Active With Your Divorcing Friend in the New Year

Four Benefits of Getting Active With Your Divorcing Friend in the New Year

We’ve all been there – lying on the couch and no natural force will get you moving. Picture this: the remote flips past the exercise channel and staring you in the face is a cheerful, glowing, fit trainer jumping around in front of a group of good looking athletes.  Cut to your friend on the couch beside you who is carrying the stress of a breakup.  You can use the magical power of friendship to take on the supportive role of that trainer. This is your chance to influence your friend to release that pressure and have some fun by exercising. Continue reading →

Three Great Gifts You Can Give Your Divorcing Friend This Holiday

Three Great Gifts You Can Give Your Divorcing Friend This Holiday

When you get together with your friends and family this holiday, your friend who is going through a split will bring lots of emotions to the table. Whether he or she is hurting or ready to move on and celebrate, here are three special gifts you can give. Continue reading →