The yellow daffodils outside of my window look so cheery. Winter’s grip has finally released and we can enjoy the pleasures of spring. Your friend in need may be in the midst of her own personal winter and the warmth of spring may seem beyond her reach. Suggesting some positive lifestyle choices post-split, may inspire her to imagine a more fulfilling life. I’m happy to share three examples of my clients who have committed to exciting new lives…post-divorce. Continue reading →
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One of the hardest parts of divorce is leaving the comfort of your own home and relocating. Your divorcing friend will need time to get used to this life altering change – and your support and encouragement. For you to help, it’s best to have an idea of what this change may bring.
For me, I had to move in with my Continue reading →
One of the most difficult storms a child can face in life is divorce. Common emotions experienced are powerlessness, shame, anger, fear, anxiety, insecurity, confusion, sadness and sometimes even relief. The support you offer to your friend’s kids as they go through this tempest can be priceless. Here are some ideas for offering helpful connection and empathy for your friend’s kids during this difficult time.
- Keep It Real. Sometimes in our effort to help kids feel better, we tell them what to think or feel, for instance, telling them that divorce is not their fault. While this is Continue reading →
Hands-down, some of the most frequently asked questions a person supporting a divorcee hears occur when the ex-spouse is a less than effective parent. Your role as an unbiased listener can provide valuable support for helping parents refocus attention back to the best interests of the child.
Start by reminding your friend that it’s natural for parents to end up on different pages; sometimes infrequently, sometimes often. Here are four steps you can recommend your friend walk through when facing the difficulties of co-parenting with a former spouse.
- Inhale. Exhale. Repeat. Remind your friend that as a couple, they probably didn’t agree on issues for their children when they were married, so it’s a good idea to take issues with parenting post-break-up with a deep breath. Continue reading →
My daughter was diagnosed with a general developmental delay at the time of my divorce. She was non-verbal and exhibited many autistic characteristics, which meant every day things were a challenge. You can imagine her confusion when her home life began to change.
Many of the things I did to try and diffuse the situation can be helpful to divorcing families with average children and special needs children alike.
Explain the Situation. Depending on the child’s mental capabilities, it may be hard to explain what is happening. Pictures have always been very effective with my daughter, so showing her a photo of Continue reading →