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How to Approach a Spouse about Divorce

How to Approach a Spouse about Divorce

No one has ever told me at the end of the divorce process they wish it had lasted longer.

Unfortunately, there are many things couples can do to ensure, upfront, that the divorce is handled rationally and with little disruption to everyone’s well being. Because it is tough for the people involved to stay calm sometimes, your role as a friend is critical. While in some conversations you should just let your divorcing friend vent, there will be other times when you can have a calm discussion about how to move forward. When your friend has decided to divorce and is ready to discuss that decision with his or her spouse and children, you can help by suggesting some practical thoughts about how to stay diplomatic. Continue reading →

4 Benefits of Getting Active With Your Divorcing Friend in the New Year

Four Benefits of Getting Active With Your Divorcing Friend in the New Year

We’ve all been there – lying on the couch and no natural force will get you moving. Picture this: the remote flips past the exercise channel and staring you in the face is a cheerful, glowing, fit trainer jumping around in front of a group of good looking athletes.  Cut to your friend on the couch beside you who is carrying the stress of a breakup.  You can use the magical power of friendship to take on the supportive role of that trainer. This is your chance to influence your friend to release that pressure and have some fun by exercising. Continue reading →

Three Great Gifts You Can Give Your Divorcing Friend This Holiday

Three Great Gifts You Can Give Your Divorcing Friend This Holiday

When you get together with your friends and family this holiday, your friend who is going through a split will bring lots of emotions to the table. Whether he or she is hurting or ready to move on and celebrate, here are three special gifts you can give. Continue reading →

Divorce During the Holidays: 6 Ways to Help

Divorce During the Holidays: 6 Ways to Help

My divorce was final on December 24, 2004 and I still remember the anxiety of spending the holidays alone with my daughter for the first time. Trying to make the season “merry and bright” when I felt everything but, was quite a challenge. If you know someone facing a lonely holiday season due to divorce, here are some ways you can help make it a little better.

Be Present
More than anything, no one wants to be alone for the holidays. S/he may have extended family to spend the actual holidays with, but leading up to those days can be just as lonely and painful. Invite your friend to some of your holiday functions, go shopping, or just to come over and have dinner or watch a movie so s/he isn’t sitting at home alone. Continue reading →

Help Your Divorcing Friend Understand How Divorce Affects Her Credit

Help Your Divorcing Friend Understand How Divorce Affects Her Credit

Credit problems are not uncommon during divorce and frequently arise because most people don’t realize that creditors are not legally bound to abide by a final decree of divorce. That is, a judge’s order does not override what is owed to a certain creditor and there are many potential problems if one spouse does not follow the court order. Continue reading →