My divorce was final on December 24, 2004 and I still remember the anxiety of spending the holidays alone with my daughter for the first time. Trying to make the season “merry and bright” when I felt everything but, was quite a challenge. If you know someone facing a lonely holiday season due to divorce, here are some ways you can help make it a little better.
More than anything, no one wants to be alone for the holidays. S/he may have extended family to spend the actual holidays with, but leading up to those days can be just as lonely and painful. Invite your friend to some of your holiday functions, go shopping, or just to come over and have dinner or watch a movie so s/he isn’t sitting at home alone.
One of the emotions that’s sure to be amplified at this time of year is a feeling of loss – a loss of family, traditions and security. Your friend is going to need to work through what s/he is feeling. A LOT. Let your friend know you are there for him/her, day or night. S/he may just want to talk, cry or have a hug. Continue reading →