My divorce was final on December 24, 2004 and I still remember the anxiety of spending the holidays alone with my daughter for the first time. Trying to make the season “merry and bright” when I felt everything but, was quite a challenge. If you know someone facing a lonely holiday season due to divorce, here are some ways you can help make it a little better.
More than anything, no one wants to be alone for the holidays. S/he may have extended family to spend the actual holidays with, but leading up to those days can be just as lonely and painful. Invite your friend to some of your holiday functions, go shopping, or just to come over and have dinner or watch a movie so s/he isn’t sitting at home alone. Continue reading →
Credit problems are not uncommon during divorce and frequently arise because most people don’t realize that creditors are not legally bound to abide by a final decree of divorce. That is, a judge’s order does not override what is owed to a certain creditor and there are many potential problems if one spouse does not follow the court order. Continue reading →
Your friend who is getting divorced will definitely experience worry and fear at some point. At best, these feelings are there to protect, and even motivate. However, unrelenting and/or irrational worry can be paralyzing. When helping your friend deal with the stress of divorce, how can you tell if anxiety has tipped from healthy to unhealthy levels? And what can you do to help her cope? Continue reading →
Whenever I’m going through something difficult, it’s far easier to focus on what’s wrong with my life than what’s right. But I find that when I make myself focus on the good instead of the bad, I feel a whole lot better, in general. Studies have proven that positive people live longer, more fulfilling lives. However, it’s only natural to feel hopeless and desperate while going through a life-changing divorce, so your friend is going to need constant support and cheerleading from you. Here are some ways to help her “look on the sunny side of life.” Continue reading →