Telling your kids you are divorcing is probably one of the hardest things you will have to do. There is never really a good time to tell your children this news, however, how you deal with your kids can determine how well they weather the process of divorce. Continue reading →
Despite the fact that up-to-half of all marriages end in divorce, it still seems to be spoken of in hushed voices with a raised brow and judgmental tone. I, too, once spoke of it in that way – before I knew better. I always thought divorce was for people who didn’t take their marriages seriously. After all, if you were truly committed, you could make it work, right?
When I learned that my preconceived notions of divorce were wrong, I found myself on the receiving end of hushed voices and raised eyebrows. I felt labeled and judged for a long time. Then, I realized the problem others had with my situation was because of their own preconceived notions and misunderstandings. I had to learn to respond to questions from them and myself in a healthy way. Continue reading →
When it comes to deciding how to divide property in a divorce, some people would just as easily choose a root canal without pain medicine over letting their former spouse get anything. Sometimes someone may be upset about the bigger picture and holding on to possessions might be a last ditch effort to hold onto something else. Sometimes someone feels so angry, he or she doesn’t want the ex to have anything. Continue reading →
If you are separated and struggling to make a decision about your marriage, you are likely swimming in the pool of ambivalence – fearful to end the marriage, yet unable to make changes to better the relationship. While in the short run ambivalence may feel safe, eventually it sets the stage for an unnecessary crisis. With some thoughtful goals and actions, a couple can use separation to avoid crisis and gain beneficial direction for their relationship. Here are a few healthy ways to use your time apart from each other: Continue reading →