I’m pleased to share my thoughts on how to best support your friend who is dealing with divorce or a transition in her marriage. Each month, I plan to share one easy and empowering tip that you can suggest to your friend as a way to help. This month, it seemed natural to focus on the benefit of volunteering as a simple way to help overcome and avoid the blahs.
Winter can be stressful for everyone, not just for those in a period of change. Your friend may be facing unique challenges, including new family rituals, more time alone or economic shortfalls. Suggesting that your friend help others is a great way for her to help herself. Giving back improves one’s self-esteem and creates a sense of community. Clemens Pietzner, President, Triskeles Foundation sums it up nicely when he says, “For someone looking for meaning, involvement and possibly change, new people and perspectives in their lives, volunteering with a service organization can be a potent path forward.” By shifting her focus from inwards on her own problems to outwards to help others in need, her sense of accomplishment and interaction with new friends could instantly boost her outlook.
Encourage your friend to get involved by making a “giving back” date together. Serve a meal to the elderly, wrap presents at a family shelter or stack the shelves at a local food bank – it will be good for both of you. Focusing on the positive by making the world a better place could be a great new tradition and help you and your friend find new joy in the holidays.