“I see that cultivating a Wholehearted life is not like trying to reach a destination. It’s like walking toward a star in the sky. We never really arrive, but we certainly know that we’re heading in the right direction.”
—Dr. Brené Brown
Are you feeling undone? Divorce has potentially dismantled your home, your family, your identity and your life in ways never imagined. What does it mean to “live wholeheartedly” when what you feel is that you “live in a dreadful mess”?
Wholehearted living is defined by Dr. Brené Brown as “engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness.” In her book The Gifts of Imperfection (Hazelden Publishing, 2010) Dr. Brown explains that worthiness is cultivated through the daily practice of courage, compassion and connection – three daring and meaningful intentions that are known to sustain us during our most difficult seasons of life. Continue reading →
Telling your kids you are divorcing is probably one of the hardest things you will have to do. There is never really a good time to tell your children this news, however, how you deal with your kids can determine how well they weather the process of divorce. Continue reading →
Despite the fact that up-to-half of all marriages end in divorce, it still seems to be spoken of in hushed voices with a raised brow and judgmental tone. I, too, once spoke of it in that way – before I knew better. I always thought divorce was for people who didn’t take their marriages seriously. After all, if you were truly committed, you could make it work, right?
When I learned that my preconceived notions of divorce were wrong, I found myself on the receiving end of hushed voices and raised eyebrows. I felt labeled and judged for a long time. Then, I realized the problem others had with my situation was because of their own preconceived notions and misunderstandings. I had to learn to respond to questions from them and myself in a healthy way. Continue reading →