You might not have thought you’d find yourself going from me to we and back to me. The good news is you can survive and even thrive after divorce. There are many things you can do to transition through this stage of life and actually enjoy it!
Place your mental health and the mental health of your children into the number one spot. Make sure everyone has some professional counseling and that both parents agree to respect each other for the sake of the children. Working hard toward these goals can help ensure a thriving future. Here are a few ways you can transition to being single after being a couple. Continue reading →
It’s time for that class reunion, and you are freshly divorced. Part of you wants to show up to see old friends and catch up. Part of you feels you can only go if you fake your way through. And another part wants to avoid that reunion like the plague.
It’s confusing because in some quiet moments you are feeling braver, more hopeful, and more sure of yourself than you have in years. On the other hand, public appearances that entail the telling of your divorce story can fill you with dread and send you into orbit. Why?
Well…let’s talk about shame. It’s that insidious experience that can be as obscure and sneaky as a termite eating away at the foundation of your soul, or as blatantly crushing as a 6-ton elephant. It’s an intense feeling that coerces you to disappear or inflate when all you really want to do is show up and simply be you. Continue reading →
“I see that cultivating a Wholehearted life is not like trying to reach a destination. It’s like walking toward a star in the sky. We never really arrive, but we certainly know that we’re heading in the right direction.”
—Dr. Brené Brown
Are you feeling undone? Divorce has potentially dismantled your home, your family, your identity and your life in ways never imagined. What does it mean to “live wholeheartedly” when what you feel is that you “live in a dreadful mess”?
Wholehearted living is defined by Dr. Brené Brown as “engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness.” In her book The Gifts of Imperfection (Hazelden Publishing, 2010) Dr. Brown explains that worthiness is cultivated through the daily practice of courage, compassion and connection – three daring and meaningful intentions that are known to sustain us during our most difficult seasons of life. Continue reading →